When Doors Don’t Open

I love to share awesome things with our Cafe’ so here is an article I read this month that really seemed to be a great one to share with everyone. The timing may be perfect with summer rapidly approaching us and with the heat rising tempers seem to do the same. We find ourselves on a shorter fuse sometimes and we need that little reminder to stop and think just how what we say, do or how we act will impact those in our lives.

I truly pray you enjoy today’s post, be sure to share below if it resonated with you!


Two young female friends laugh and eat chocolate outdoors


Today’s Truth: I will never leave you nor forsake you. Joshua 1:5

Friend to Friend

The morning had been hectic and they were running late because the baby needed a last minute diaper change. Tara needed to get all three kiddos loaded up and to the car pool location quickly, but for some strange reason the back doors of her van would not open. She tried her clicker. She tried the key. She tried jiggling the lock.

Anxiousness started to well up in her heart.

“You’ve got to be kidding me!” She grumbled loudly while trying to open the back doors of her minivan. “This is NOT what I need right now!”

The kids began to sense the tension and take on the stress for their own.

“What’s wrong, mommy?”

“The back doors aren’t opening and we’re gonna be late! That’s what’s wrong!”

Pressed for time and strongly annoyed, Tara told the kids to get in through the front door and had them crawl back to settle into their car seats. As she started the car she was aware of her agitation and didn’t like it.

Taking a deep breath, Tara began to recognize the stress for what it was. She remembered the Bible verse that is written on the chalkboard in their kitchen. Spoken from the lips of Jesus Himself, the words flooded her heart…

2Peter-Jude-Dec18In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. (John 16:33)

Yes. They were having trouble getting a few doors open, but it was nothing that Jesus couldn’t help her handle. Calmed and cooled by the red-lettered love, Tara made an empowered decision … and a very cool minivan ministry moment followed that went something like this:

“Okay, guys! Here we go!” Tara began. “That was a bit stressful and I’m sorry for raising my voice. I’m not sure why the doors didn’t open, but we aren’t going to let it mess up our day. We can choose to let this situation get the best of us, or we can get the best of the situation by asking God to bring peace to our anxiousness. Remember the verse on the kitchen chalkboard? Jesus said that in this world we’re going to have trouble. Sometimes doors don’t open, but He’ll help us! Jesus told us to “take heart” because He has overcome the world.”

Then, from the back of the van her eight-year-old theologian son piped up and joined the sacred conversation.

“Yeah! And Jesus said that He’ll never leave us or forsake us. God is always with us, mom!”

From. The. Lips. Of. A. Child.

God is always with us.

What began as a chaotic and stressful drive to school became a celebration of the presence of God. It was a devotion-on-wheels that began with a door that wouldn’t open. A beautiful memory that started with stress but was changed by the grace of Jesus, our Overcomer.

Sometimes doors don’t open for us. We don’t always get the position we want, the response we want, the admiration we want, or the health we want. But with every closed door comes an opportunity of response. When Tara invited God into her frustration and opened her heart to His presence the tension transitioned to peace.

A few minutes after the “stuck door debacle” they arrived at the carpool line to pick up the other children. Tara figured she’d try again. She pressed the button to unlock the back doors, and this time they opened with no resistance.

A smile spread across her face as this thought danced in Tara’s mind. If the back doors had opened a few moments earlier, we would’ve lost the opportunity to celebrate God’s peace and our time of sacred conversation would never have happened.

With that in mind she thanked God for the doors that didn’t open as she drove the kids to school.

I don’t always respond perfectly in stressful situations. And Tara readily admits that she doesn’t either. But when we choose to turn our frustrations and disappointments over to God He gives us the grace we need to experience His peace in the midst of pressure.

Let’s Pray

Lord, Thank You for reminding me that You are dependable, available, and willing to help at all times. Please guide me toward Your grace when I grumble. Teach me to turn to You when I’m stressed so that others would see Your joy and peace in me.

In Jesus’ Name,


Now It’s Your Turn

Read Psalm 37. What verses in the chapter resonate with your heart today? What doors are not opening in your life that have you frustrated? Grab your journal and a pen and write a prayer of response. Not a journal girl? No worries. Swing over to my blog or Facebook page and write it there!

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What “Chewbacca Mom” Can Teach Us…



I was reading some articles this morning and found one from one of my favorite resources iBloom.

This video was one of the best ones I have seen hit the internet in a long time. I even paused it to grab my husband to watch it and we laughed until we cried. Candace was hysterical sharing her new found Chewbacca mask with the world…well her friends on Facebook. She had no idea how far it would go…




I wanted to share some really important points that Jen Bennett made in the article here as it pertains to why we sometimes find ourselves stuck and unable to move forward in our life/business.

Here is what Jen had to say in her article:

After going live, she soon found herself in a position that she couldn’t even imagine. She not only ended up shattering the record for most Facebook Live Video Views; a record that was recently held by Buzzfeed, but she touched and impacted the lives of MILLIONS of people.  Today, her live video has over 3 million shares.

What can her video teach us about social media?

  • We must stop worrying about what other people think: The one thing I hear from business owners as to why they are not getting active with live video on social media, is that they worry far too much about what other people will think. They worry that they will stumble upon their words. They worry about saying the right or wrong things. They worry about how they look. And it’s these worries that turn into the “what will people think” worry; a worry that ultimately keeps them from sharing.One look at Payne’s video and you will see that she could care less about what other people think; she’s just being herself. And by being herself, the world has come to love her.
  • We don’t have to make things difficult: The thought of social media, especially live video, truly scares some people. They worry about having the right equipment, the right lighting, the right background and the right tools. But truthfully, we are making it way too difficult.When you look at Payne’s video, you will see that she shot her video from her car! There was no studio, no background lights, no makeup check, etc. She had an idea and decided to move forward with it by sharing it with the world, using the one tool that she had, her phone.
  • We have to be comfortable with who we are: This is what I love most about Payne’s video; she is comfortable in her skin. She’s not worried about looking a certain way and she’s not worried about what people will think when they hear her laugh; she’s just comfortable with who God created her to be. She’s being her true authentic self, instead of trying to be “perfect.”Far too often we try to make everything just right before we even think about sharing ourselves on social media. If our outfit isn’t perfect, our hair and/or our makeup, then we just won’t do it. But as you can see, if you are real and authentic and have a message to share, the world will listen. And truthfully, perfectionism is the one thing that holds so many of us back. Aiming for perfectionism means that we are not comfortable with who we are. The fear of not doing something perfect causes us to step back and do nothing. The world would much rather connect with someone who is authentic and not perfect.

So today, I want you to think about how this relates to you and your business:

  • Do you worry too much about what other people will think?
  • Are you trying to make things more difficult than what they need to be?
  • Are you comfortable with who you are, or are you wasting precious time trying to be perfect?

Take some time to work through these questions and then, do something about it. And if I may, I would like to challenge YOU to do a Facebook Live Video. Why? Because if the enemy can hold you back from sharing your expertise, your wisdom, your stories, your true authentic self, then he knows that he can keep you from being used fully for the Kingdom of God. And honestly, what better way then to let him know that he has no control over you, then by moving forward with a Facebook Live Video?

PS: If you decide to take me up on this challenge, post your link below; I would LOVE to watch it and send some encouragement your way!

About Jen Bennett:

555fa49996b2ffe023ee98504c755a7cDr. Jen Bennett is the Inspirational Communication Specialist and Project Manager at iBloom. Jen’s passion is helping businesses, ministries and individuals, #BeWorthFollowing. Jen enjoys speaking, training, and writing on all things that inspire and help leaders build a digital footprint and personal brand that is different and that helps them stand out and influence people in a crowded and noisy social media world.



A simple thing we far to often neglect to do with all the stress and things we feel we have to do.

Stop with me now and take a deep breath…breathe in and exhale out…



As busy women entrepreneurs, parents, wives we often have a to-do-list that never ends.

God is loves us so much He wants us to take care of ourselves, get rest and BREATHE!

If we look at Proverbs, in two separate verses God tells us to REST:


A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest.
Proverbs 6:10 NIV and Proverbs 24:33 NIV

girl lying in a meadow enjoying the sun. More pictures like this in my portfolio.


Take that time today and BREATHE in the refreshing breath that Christ gives us as His daughters.

If we can do this, we will be of better service to those we are called to serve and our families. You will begin to THRIVE in your business and you will find true JOY in your heart.

Ready, set….BREATHE!

Take a quick listen to this song…


Cleaning Day…

We are in the spirit of Spring Cleaning this month. Cleaning out the closets, drawers, the dust bunnies and more. So this post I am sharing with you is perfect timing to encourage you to see cleaning day in a new perspective.

This post comes from Women’s Ministry Leader with Group, which is a wonderful resource for study materials to grow your faith. You can find them here.



“Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me.” Psalm 51:10

I cleaned today—not because I expect company or because I had nothing better to do but because the weekend is nearly here, which means more people will be home for extended hours. To me, a clean house is a comfortable home.

As I was cleaning, I realized it’s not the act of cleaning that thrills me. I only enjoy the process of cleaning because I anticipate the end result: a pleasant house in which I can relax because the dust bunnies aren’t peering at me from under furniture. I’m refreshed in a house full of clean smells.

It’s the same with spiritual growth. I’m not thrilled with the process. It’s messy, inconvenient, and sometimes painful. However, the result is a maturing relationship with Jesus. I won’t enjoy the comfort of a close relationship without letting him cleanse my life. He gets rid of the accumulating dust bunnies. He sanitizes the toxic surfaces. He washes away the filth to refresh me.

Look around your house or office. What needs to be done to clean it?

Cleaning will take time and effort.

Look at your heart. What needs to be done to clean it?

Cleaning will take time and effort, but Jesus will take care of it—if you let him.

Action Step: Choose one cleaning project to complete in the next 3 minutes. It’s easy to get overwhelmed with what needs to get done, but it only takes one small step at a time. Set yourself up for a sense of accomplishment.

Susan Lawrence is a women’s ministry consultant, who regularly speaks at conferences and training’s.